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Date #1: Nathan

September 18, 2021 Date number one actually resulted in a date number two. Nathan and I had been introduced through a long-time friend of my Aunty Shelley. The friend asked me if I was interested in meeting someone she knew, and I said yes. She said he would call. He texted that evening. From there, we engaged in a series of long texts, a bit more than I personally like. Personal topics arose, which I am happy to share, but not via text. I cannot recall most of what I engage in over text. In person, when I'm invested, I will share almost anything. Through our texts, I learned that he was 34 and on the verge of 35 (September like me), an avid reader, a Microsoft employee, and a natural introvert. We also spoke about our complicated family dynamics, which felt very boring over text. In the past, I would have been turned off by an introvert because I was blinded by the charms of the "prom date." A year ago, I wanted only the Russells of the world: fun, alive, charismatic, c...

Introduction to the Idea

I came up with the idea to go on 36 dates at 36 years of age after listening to a podcast featuring a guest that went on 50 dates at 50 and found her person. She approached each date with curiousity and fun, never stress. I thought the idea sounded interesting. Of course, I naturally hold more stress than her because I still want children. Nonetheless, stress has not led me to success in my dating life, and as Einstein famously professed: "Insanity is Doing the Same Thing Over and Over and Expecting Different Results." Whatever I had been doing in my dating life wasn't working, and this sounded like an interesting experiment. I still have time to meet my person and potentially have a child, so I can take the stress out and approach it with an open mind. My mind had been closed at various times. For example, I had specifically searched for a man that was fun, charming, outgoing, "successful," a gentleman. As I'm learning more, it turns out that some of those...